coulda, woulda, shoulda

How many times do you think back to the way things were before? Do you wish you could change the way things turned out or maybe have done somethings differently? Well of course we all think like that. It’s in our nature as humans to want to let the ego self be in control and mislead us into believing we are able to change the course of events that in reality we have no control over. When truth is, we are only in control of our reactions to events, and the way we perceive them. This is what creates our own reality. If we get brave enough to shift our focus to see through the soul’s view, we see things in a very different light. I found this line of thinking very helpful in transforming the pain in my grief. Accepting the truth of the situation which is, “I am not that powerful” to change the course of anyone else’s soul journey and that I can only be in control of how I decide to view it was a huge game changer for me. My son has told me over numerous times that he was leaving when and how he left whether I liked it or not and no-thing, nothing I could do was going to stop it from happening. So please consider letting the coulda, woulda, shoulda’s go and surrender to the fact that all is in divine order. You did the absolute best you could have done with the knowledge you had at the time. Your loved one in spirit knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that if you had a magic crystal ball and you could have changed the course of events to prevent them from leaving you would have, but you just didn’t have that power.