perfectly imperfect

As a human with an ego self, you are meant to have flaws. But remember as a soul, your true higher self, you are exactly perfect just the way you are. Your love for others should always equal the love you have for yourself. If you are a perfectionist, as I am, you know all too well that we as humans tend to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves in order to feel a sense of self control. This mindset can hinder the natural ebb and flow of emotions that accompany grief. Don’t surrender to perfectionism in your grief. There is absolutely no right or wrong way to deal with grief. It is as unique to you as your fingerprint. Sometimes we think our grief should look a certain way or we are expected to feel a specific way on an unnecessary timeline. Remember that only we can put those expectations on ourself and many times we are too harsh and critical of ourselves. It is certainly alright to be nonjudgmental of yourself and just allow your grief to unfold organically. The definition of being perfectly imperfect means accepting and celebrating our flaws, quirks and mistakes. This is what makes us unique and also human. By embracing our imperfections, we can find liberation and acceptance for being perfectly imperfect. So allow your grief to be perfectly imperfect, and in doing so you will allow yourself to practice more self compassion and love.